Child Suspended from Reception!

[M&S]

Has anybody ever heard of this?

A 'persistantly naughty child' has been suspended from my son's school - 4
weeks into his school life.

The headteacher won't confirm if they have een suspended but the father's
best friend has told us. Fair enough, it's not for the head to tell us names
or anything, but I think we have a right to know whether it is definitely
true.

Of course, this is the boy that my son wants at his party!!! How do I deal
with that??? I can't say no now as we have already told him he will be
invited.

S (mum to James 4 3/4)

[Mary Ann]

Post by M&S
Has anybody ever heard of this?
A 'persistantly naughty child' has been suspended from my son's school - 4
weeks into his school life.
The headteacher won't confirm if they have een suspended but the father's
best friend has told us. Fair enough, it's not for the head to tell us names
or anything, but I think we have a right to know whether it is definitely
true.
Of course, this is the boy that my son wants at his party!!! How do I deal
with that??? I can't say no now as we have already told him he will be
invited.
S (mum to James 4 3/4)

In this situation I think it would be fine to talk to the head and ask
about their suspension policy because you are naturally anxious having
heard that a Reception child has been suspended (if the head thinks
the parents will not be curious about this then he/she is misguided).

I am surprised that the details of something like this haven't flown
around the parent grapevine like wildfire.

Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense and you fear for the safety of
others or the property. Since I doubt it is something of this scale I
can't think why you would not invite him.

Mary Ann

[Deryck]

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

Cheers

Deryck

[Mary Ann]

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

I know nothing about whether an invitation to a child's party is a
legally binding engagement :-)
I was talking about etiquette. It would seem rather harsh to retract
an invitation based on the knowledge M&S has ie little.

Mary Ann

[M&S]

we're going to let his invitation stand. I think it's just an attention
thing (he just lives with dad) and the fact that all the teachers (and TAs
etc) are female.

Post by Mary Ann

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

I know nothing about whether an invitation to a child's party is a
legally binding engagement :-)
I was talking about etiquette. It would seem rather harsh to retract
an invitation based on the knowledge M&S has ie little.
Mary Ann

[Lorenzo]

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

Er, no! No law is involved in everyday social interactions. Don't know
what she means.

Even if the law did apply, it would depend on whether the invitation had
been accepted or not.

L.

[Mary Ann]

Post by Lorenzo

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

Er, no! No law is involved in everyday social interactions. Don't know
what she means.
Even if the law did apply, it would depend on whether the invitation had
been accepted or not.
L.

"She" didn't mean anything other than what would be polite, that's
all :-)

Mary Ann

[M&S]

Well seeing the delight on 'child in question's' face when we gave him the
invitiation was worth every pound in the world! He was so excited and drew
my son a picture to say thank you.

I think he just needs a bit of 1:1 support from a caring person (his poor
dad probably needs a break too) and doesn't like having to be a 'nobody' in
a class of 30 children.

S (mum to James nearly 5)

Post by Mary Ann

Post by Lorenzo

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

Er, no! No law is involved in everyday social interactions. Don't know
what she means.
Even if the law did apply, it would depend on whether the invitation had
been accepted or not.
L.

"She" didn't mean anything other than what would be polite, that's
all :-)
Mary Ann

[mogga]

Post by M&S
Well seeing the delight on 'child in question's' face when we gave him the
invitiation was worth every pound in the world! He was so excited and drew
my son a picture to say thank you.
I think he just needs a bit of 1:1 support from a caring person (his poor
dad probably needs a break too) and doesn't like having to be a 'nobody' in
a class of 30 children.

I spose that can be a big shock for some children - to have had the
sole attention of an adult for years and then to find there's loads of
others all wanting teacher.

Post by M&S
S (mum to James nearly 5)

Post by Mary Ann

Post by Lorenzo

Post by Deryck

Post by Mary Ann
Of course you cannot retract the invitation to your party unless the
child has committed a criminal offense

You can't? Is that a legal thing?

Er, no! No law is involved in everyday social interactions. Don't know
what she means.
Even if the law did apply, it would depend on whether the invitation had
been accepted or not.
L.

"She" didn't mean anything other than what would be polite, that's
all :-)
Mary Ann

[Welches]

Post by M&S
Has anybody ever heard of this?
A 'persistantly naughty child' has been suspended from my son's school - 4
weeks into his school life.
The headteacher won't confirm if they have een suspended but the father's
best friend has told us. Fair enough, it's not for the head to tell us
names or anything, but I think we have a right to know whether it is
definitely true.

I'm not sure you have a right. You have a right to know their suspension
policy, but not how they deal with individual cases. I'd guess in this
you're really not going to get the whole story. Could be along the lines of:
Child doing some innappropriate activities or displaying symptoms of some
sort of medical disorder. Teacher asks to speak to parents. Parents refuse
either because they don't want to believe that their is a problem (medical
or otherwise) or because they don't want to be bothered. Head says that they
can't cope with the child until they've sorted something out with the
parents. Parents tell everyone how terrible the school is that they've
suspended the child for nothing.
I've come across this sort of situation and the child often isn't that bad,
just the parents!!
Debbie

Post by M&S
Of course, this is the boy that my son wants at his party!!! How do I deal
with that??? I can't say no now as we have already told him he will be
invited.

[G Hardy]

Post by M&S
Of course, this is the boy that my son wants at his party!!! How do I deal
with that??? I can't say no now as we have already told him he will be
invited.

You'll be at the party (along with a few other adults) not the school staff:
Their idea of "persistently naughty" might be disruptively running around
yelling and wanting to play instead of work. Ideal qualities for a
partygoer, I'd have thought.

[Illiana via FamilyKB.com]

Post by M&S
Has anybody ever heard of this?
A 'persistantly naughty child' has been suspended from my son's school - 4
weeks into his school life.
The headteacher won't confirm if they have een suspended but the father's
best friend has told us. Fair enough, it's not for the head to tell us names
or anything, but I think we have a right to know whether it is definitely
true.
Of course, this is the boy that my son wants at his party!!! How do I deal
with that??? I can't say no now as we have already told him he will be
invited.
S (mum to James 4 3/4)

If the child has not been naughty in your home, do not un-invite him. Some
children just fidget a lot, and a lot of teachers don't know how to deal with
a rambunctious child. If the kid is under 7 years of age, naughty usually
consists of not being able to sit still, or be quiet on demand, and silly
things that most children do.
If the child has not been naughty in your home, or done anything wrong to
your child, you should leave it alone, and see what happens at the party.